Well, not yet.
Remember how I told you about my brother being a punk about my sister’s new car? Well, shortly after that, my mom ripped him a new one, basically telling him that he needs to be more supportive of our sister because she’s been so good to him and his family and that he’s an immature, little brat (ok, she didn’t use those words, but that’s pretty much what she said). Knowing my mom, she didn’t say this in the harshest tone. It probably sounded more like a loving scolding (my mom has mastered this over the years). When I’ve been on the receiving end of the loving scolding, I get mad at first and then I see the light and correct my behavior. My brother has decided against this route.
Instead, R (my bro), in true immature brat fashion, has decided to ignore my mom for a whole month now, with no end in sight. He doesn’t return her calls. He has his wife ask my mom to baby-sit my niece Serena. My brother completely ignored the Evite I sent him for my Cali birthday bash in two weeks (even though I have nothing to do with this). And now my brother isn’t even returning my sister’s calls, even though she had nothing to do with my mom’s scolding. Yes, it was about her, but my sister has no idea what was said, even to this day. My mom doesn’t want my sister to know.
My mom was pretty upset after she scolded my brother. She called me that night to ask me if she had done the right thing. I questioned some of the things she had said (some that could come across as ‘low blows’ and my brother would definitely interpret them as such). But I told her that if what she said was straight from her heart, then she had done no wrong. She only wanted to mend the relationship between my brother and sister, a relationship that has been strained on many, many occasions—sometimes to the point where they don’t even speak to each other. And I can’t fault her for wanting to bring her children together. My brother is the lone passive-aggressive person in my family which occasionally baffles the rest of us—mom, sis, and me—because we’re generally very passionate and vocal. When it comes to my family, I’d rather lay everything all out on the table than stew in anger. As easy as it is for some of us to just stew in our own feelings, it’s not the most effective way to deal with stuff.
In a desperate effort to get my brother to stop being such a punk, my sister sent him an email last night. The email was very diplomatic and basically urged him to re-establish communication with our mother who is very upset with the treatment she’s been getting from R. I’ve read the email and I’m not sure he’ll reply. Why? Because my sister gently called him out on various things and he’s a big baby. He may not be ready to see the truth.
I told my sister that it really, really upsets me that my brother continues to act this way, even as an adult and one who has a family of his own. What kind of example is he setting for his kids if he refuses to take grandma’s calls? Does he not think that maybe one day, he’ll have to give one of his daughters a loving scolding of their own? I wonder if he’ll remember his recent behavior if his girls refuse to speak to him again.
Karma’s a b*tch, big bro. Don’t think it won’t happen to you.
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Well, not yet.